“There is no agony like having an untold story inside you.” - Zora Neale Hurston
Posts tagged "sexual violence"
Shedding the Shame of Adolescent Peer Sexual Abuse: My Story

Shedding the Shame of Adolescent Peer Sexual Abuse: My Story

For years, it ate away at me inside. Disgusted in myself for not being more forceful, for not standing my ground. Ashamed, believing it was my fault because, well, I was part of it. I knew it was wrong for an adult to harm or exploit a child but never realized there could be perpetrators...
When the Church Walks Away: Part Three

When the Church Walks Away: Part Three

This is part three in a series of posts by Kathy Wiens, a sexual violence survivor, and her husband, Tim, who has been her strong ally. The series focuses on her experience of advocating for people vulnerable to abuse in her Mennonite church home where she struggled to resist retraumatization as the community of faith she trusted prioritized the needs...
When the Church Walks Away: Part Two

When the Church Walks Away: Part Two

One of the hardest things about pushing a church for more accountability is the overwhelming pressure to “make nice.” Most of us feel this pressure, in one way or another. Women in particular are taught to do emotional caretaking, to accommodate and take responsibility for the feelings of others. For someone with the kind of...
When the Church Walks Away: Part One

When the Church Walks Away: Part One

  This is part one in what will be a series of posts published over the next few weeks by Kathy Wiens, a sexual violence survivor, and her husband, Tim, who has been her strong ally. Kathy has previously written and published a book that powerfully tells the story of the abuse she survived. But...
Education is Power: Your three-part guide to campus sexual violence and Title IX in a time of crisis

Education is Power: Your three-part guide to campus sexual violence and Title IX in a time of crisis

Our friends at Into Account are in the middle of a brilliant blog series that makes down-to-earth sense of the Title IX mayhem Betsy DeVos is currently orchestrating. I think the series is so helpful that I asked if Our Stories Untold could cross-post each piece of it as it develops, and Stephanie Krehbiel – the writer...
Who protects the flock? My encounter with an abusive pastor

Who protects the flock? My encounter with an abusive pastor

In what follows, Kay Ellen courageously tells of the abuse she experienced from her former pastor, Duane Yoder, and of the ways her communities of faith failed to hold him accountable. As you will learn from reading her own words, Kay has chosen to share her account publicly in order to help prevent this same...
We Are the Answer We've Been Waiting For

We Are the Answer We’ve Been Waiting For

This is part 6 in a series of posts by sexual violence survivors and advocates who want the opportunity to respond to the findings released in November by Eastern Mennonite University’s hired compliance firm D. Stafford and Associates. The first, second, third, fourth and fifth posts by Stephanie Krehbiel, Lisa Schirch, and myself can be found at these links. In this last post of the series,...
A Timeline of What Happened in Harrisonburg: My View

A Timeline of What Happened in Harrisonburg: My View

This is part 5 in a series of posts by sexual violence survivors and advocates who want the opportunity to respond to the findings released in November by Eastern Mennonite University’s hired compliance firm D. Stafford and Associates. Barbra Graber, who has been in the thick of it since day one, today releases her take on the unfolding of the high...
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