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When the Church Walks Away: A Survivor's Husband Speaks Out

When the Church Walks Away: A Survivor’s Husband Speaks Out

Tim Wiens, husband of survivor and Our Stories Untold contributor, Kathy Wiens, writes here about institutional betrayal in response to sexualized violence in the church. We recently published three posts by Kathy Weins that you can find here, here, and here. She spoke of the betrayal and retraumatization she experienced when her church prioritized the needs of a perpetrator...
When the Church Walks Away: Learning to Stand With the Survivors We Love

When the Church Walks Away: Learning to Stand With the Survivors We Love

Often, survivors of sexualized violence experience isolation even in their own families. It is far too infrequent that partners and parents and siblings find their way toward solidarity with loved ones who have experienced abuse. Which is why it is important for all of us to hear and learn from family members of sexualized violence...
When the Church Walks Away: Part Three

When the Church Walks Away: Part Three

This is part three in a series of posts by Kathy Wiens, a sexual violence survivor, and her husband, Tim, who has been her strong ally. The series focuses on her experience of advocating for people vulnerable to abuse in her Mennonite church home where she struggled to resist retraumatization as the community of faith she trusted prioritized the needs...
When the Church Walks Away: Part Two

When the Church Walks Away: Part Two

One of the hardest things about pushing a church for more accountability is the overwhelming pressure to “make nice.” Most of us feel this pressure, in one way or another. Women in particular are taught to do emotional caretaking, to accommodate and take responsibility for the feelings of others. For someone with the kind of...
When the Church Walks Away: Part One

When the Church Walks Away: Part One

  This is part one in what will be a series of posts published over the next few weeks by Kathy Wiens, a sexual violence survivor, and her husband, Tim, who has been her strong ally. Kathy has previously written and published a book that powerfully tells the story of the abuse she survived. But...
A Crisis of Faith: In support of Kay Ellen

A Crisis of Faith: In support of Kay Ellen

Sexualized violence doesn’t only hurt those directly victimized. It ripples out and causes all manner of harm to the families, loved ones, colleagues, and broader communities of both victim-survivors and perpetrators. While Our Stories Untold prioritizes survivors’ voices, those who are secondarily impacted need to be heard too so that we get a full picture of the...
We Are the Answer We've Been Waiting For

We Are the Answer We’ve Been Waiting For

This is part 6 in a series of posts by sexual violence survivors and advocates who want the opportunity to respond to the findings released in November by Eastern Mennonite University’s hired compliance firm D. Stafford and Associates. The first, second, third, fourth and fifth posts by Stephanie Krehbiel, Lisa Schirch, and myself can be found at these links. In this last post of the series,...
9 Remaining Questions on EMU's DSA Report

9 Remaining Questions on EMU’s DSA Report

SERIES INTRODUCTION:  Lisa Schirch’s voice will provide the next three parts in this series of posts in which survivors and advocates respond to the findings released in November by Eastern Mennonite University’s (EMU’s) hired compliance firm D. Stafford and Associates (DSA).  Read Stephanie Krehbiel’s Part 1 “Asking the Right Questions” here. Lisa’s Part 2 now asks 9 critical questions left unanswered by the published report of...
The Church Continues to Break our Trust

The Church Continues to Break our Trust

Dear friends, Several weeks ago, my sister Lauren Shifflett announced her decision not to participate in the investigation taking place at Eastern Mennonite University by D. Stafford and Associates and explained her reasons why. I support her decision fully and after being asked to submit to an interview myself, I also have decided to decline....
Archiving a culture of silence

Archiving a culture of silence

This is the second post in OSU’s current blog series on SNAP Mennonite’s MAP List (Mennonite Abuse Prevention List) and the broader issue of naming church workers (lay or ordained) who are credibly accused* of perpetrating sexualized violence. Check out my introduction to the series or Barbra’s post from last week to get a better grasp on what the series is about, where this...
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