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When the Church Walks Away: A Survivor's Husband Speaks Out

When the Church Walks Away: A Survivor’s Husband Speaks Out

Tim Wiens, husband of survivor and Our Stories Untold contributor, Kathy Wiens, writes here about institutional betrayal in response to sexualized violence in the church. We recently published three posts by Kathy Weins that you can find here, here, and here. She spoke of the betrayal and retraumatization she experienced when her church prioritized the needs of a perpetrator...
When the Church Walks Away: Learning to Stand With the Survivors We Love

When the Church Walks Away: Learning to Stand With the Survivors We Love

Often, survivors of sexualized violence experience isolation even in their own families. It is far too infrequent that partners and parents and siblings find their way toward solidarity with loved ones who have experienced abuse. Which is why it is important for all of us to hear and learn from family members of sexualized violence...
When the Church Walks Away: Part Three

When the Church Walks Away: Part Three

This is part three in a series of posts by Kathy Wiens, a sexual violence survivor, and her husband, Tim, who has been her strong ally. The series focuses on her experience of advocating for people vulnerable to abuse in her Mennonite church home where she struggled to resist retraumatization as the community of faith she trusted prioritized the needs...
When the Church Walks Away: Part Two

When the Church Walks Away: Part Two

One of the hardest things about pushing a church for more accountability is the overwhelming pressure to “make nice.” Most of us feel this pressure, in one way or another. Women in particular are taught to do emotional caretaking, to accommodate and take responsibility for the feelings of others. For someone with the kind of...
When the Church Walks Away: Part One

When the Church Walks Away: Part One

  This is part one in what will be a series of posts published over the next few weeks by Kathy Wiens, a sexual violence survivor, and her husband, Tim, who has been her strong ally. Kathy has previously written and published a book that powerfully tells the story of the abuse she survived. But...
We Are the Answer We've Been Waiting For

We Are the Answer We’ve Been Waiting For

This is part 6 in a series of posts by sexual violence survivors and advocates who want the opportunity to respond to the findings released in November by Eastern Mennonite University’s hired compliance firm D. Stafford and Associates. The first, second, third, fourth and fifth posts by Stephanie Krehbiel, Lisa Schirch, and myself can be found at these links. In this last post of the series,...
Controversies and Clarifications: What does it actually mean when OSU writers take a stand?

Controversies and Clarifications: What does it actually mean when OSU writers take a stand?

When I enter Mennonite spaces, friends, colleagues, and sometimes complete strangers regularly approach me and say, “I need to talk to you about Our Stories Untold.” Or sometimes it’s, “I need to talk to you about SNAP.” This opening line is followed by impassioned questions and expressions of concern, the most frequent of which are...
Call to Action Update...

Call to Action Update…

(…or what we didn’t say in an attempt to keep it short, and are now saying anyway because not saying it is being used to discredit our concern) Wow. Here’s a big, hearty thank you! to all of you who responded to our call to action. Your words and energy and care for survivors and people...
OSU Call to Action! We need 15 minutes of your time!

OSU Call to Action! We need 15 minutes of your time!

Dear friends and supporters, On June 14, 2016 Mennonite Church USA and Mennonite Education Agency published their joint plan for pursuing outside investigation into “the Hartman situation.” On first glance, it might read as a reasonable and unremarkable update, but Our Stories Untold cannot stress enough that this plan, as it is written, will undermine...
Now We Are Free

Now We Are Free

This may be an unfair assumption, but many people are probably only reading this post to hear about my experiences with Luke Hartman. My story is so much bigger than him though, and writing this post has involved revisiting some of the hardest moments of my life. Please don’t cheapen that long and painful process...
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