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Shedding the Shame of Adolescent Peer Sexual Abuse: My Story

Shedding the Shame of Adolescent Peer Sexual Abuse: My Story

For years, it ate away at me inside. Disgusted in myself for not being more forceful, for not standing my ground. Ashamed, believing it was my fault because, well, I was part of it. I knew it was wrong for an adult to harm or exploit a child but never realized there could be perpetrators...
The Power of the Dark

The Power of the Dark

Zeta (pseudonym) is a survivor of sexual abuse and rape both as a child and as an adult. She will be writing every now and then for Our Stories Untold, with a special focus on speaking to other survivors about everyday dynamics of struggle and peace that come with being a person who is living a...
When the Church Walks Away: A Survivor's Husband Speaks Out

When the Church Walks Away: A Survivor’s Husband Speaks Out

Tim Wiens, husband of survivor and Our Stories Untold contributor, Kathy Wiens, writes here about institutional betrayal in response to sexualized violence in the church. We recently published three posts by Kathy Weins that you can find here, here, and here. She spoke of the betrayal and retraumatization she experienced when her church prioritized the needs of a perpetrator...
When the Church Walks Away: Learning to Stand With the Survivors We Love

When the Church Walks Away: Learning to Stand With the Survivors We Love

Often, survivors of sexualized violence experience isolation even in their own families. It is far too infrequent that partners and parents and siblings find their way toward solidarity with loved ones who have experienced abuse. Which is why it is important for all of us to hear and learn from family members of sexualized violence...
When the Church Walks Away: Part Three

When the Church Walks Away: Part Three

This is part three in a series of posts by Kathy Wiens, a sexual violence survivor, and her husband, Tim, who has been her strong ally. The series focuses on her experience of advocating for people vulnerable to abuse in her Mennonite church home where she struggled to resist retraumatization as the community of faith she trusted prioritized the needs...
When the Church Walks Away: Part Two

When the Church Walks Away: Part Two

One of the hardest things about pushing a church for more accountability is the overwhelming pressure to “make nice.” Most of us feel this pressure, in one way or another. Women in particular are taught to do emotional caretaking, to accommodate and take responsibility for the feelings of others. For someone with the kind of...
When the Church Walks Away: Part One

When the Church Walks Away: Part One

  This is part one in what will be a series of posts published over the next few weeks by Kathy Wiens, a sexual violence survivor, and her husband, Tim, who has been her strong ally. Kathy has previously written and published a book that powerfully tells the story of the abuse she survived. But...
#Metoo and Public Disclosures of Sexual Violence Perpetration: What’s a Listener to Do?

#Metoo and Public Disclosures of Sexual Violence Perpetration: What’s a Listener to Do?

This piece was originally posted on Women In Theology. Yesterday, at approximately 12:47 pm, I decided to abandon my workday, go home, turn off the internet, eat six slices of the pumpkin pie I baked the night before, cuddle up with my pups on the couch, and call it. Seeing every woman, trans, and nonbinary...
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