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When the Church Walks Away: Learning to Stand With the Survivors We Love

When the Church Walks Away: Learning to Stand With the Survivors We Love

Often, survivors of sexualized violence experience isolation even in their own families. It is far too infrequent that partners and parents and siblings find their way toward solidarity with loved ones who have experienced abuse. Which is why it is important for all of us to hear and learn from...
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When the Church Walks Away: Part Three

When the Church Walks Away: Part Three

This is part three in a series of posts by Kathy Wiens, a sexual violence survivor, and her husband, Tim, who has been her strong ally. The series focuses on her experience of advocating for people vulnerable to abuse in her Mennonite church home where she struggled to resist retraumatization as the community of faith she trusted prioritized the needs...
When the Church Walks Away: Part Two

When the Church Walks Away: Part Two

One of the hardest things about pushing a church for more accountability is the overwhelming pressure to “make nice.” Most of us feel this pressure, in one way or another. Women in particular are taught to do emotional caretaking, to accommodate and take responsibility for the feelings of others. For someone with the kind of...
When the Church Walks Away: Part One

When the Church Walks Away: Part One

  This is part one in what will be a series of posts published over the next few weeks by Kathy Wiens, a sexual violence survivor, and her husband, Tim, who has been her strong ally. Kathy has previously written and published a book that powerfully tells the story of the abuse she survived. But...
#Metoo and Public Disclosures of Sexual Violence Perpetration: What’s a Listener to Do?

#Metoo and Public Disclosures of Sexual Violence Perpetration: What’s a Listener to Do?

This piece was originally posted on Women In Theology. Yesterday, at approximately 12:47 pm, I decided to abandon my workday, go home, turn off the internet, eat six slices of the pumpkin pie I baked the night before, cuddle up with my pups on the couch, and call it. Seeing every woman, trans, and nonbinary...
Education is Power: Your three-part guide to campus sexual violence and Title IX in a time of crisis

Education is Power: Your three-part guide to campus sexual violence and Title IX in a time of crisis

Our friends at Into Account are in the middle of a brilliant blog series that makes down-to-earth sense of the Title IX mayhem Betsy DeVos is currently orchestrating. I think the series is so helpful that I asked if Our Stories Untold could cross-post each piece of it as it develops, and Stephanie Krehbiel – the writer...
Barbra is Saying Goodbye after Four Remarkable Years

Barbra is Saying Goodbye after Four Remarkable Years

Dear OSU friends, I’m deeply saddened to announce that it has become necessary for me to move on from my position as Editor of Our Stories Untold. Although it will be a relief to pull back from what has recently become an all too full plate of responsibilities, I will so miss the vibrant, growing...
A Crisis of Faith: In support of Kay Ellen

A Crisis of Faith: In support of Kay Ellen

Sexualized violence doesn’t only hurt those directly victimized. It ripples out and causes all manner of harm to the families, loved ones, colleagues, and broader communities of both victim-survivors and perpetrators. While Our Stories Untold prioritizes survivors’ voices, those who are secondarily impacted need to be heard too so that we get a full picture of the...
Who protects the flock? My encounter with an abusive pastor

Who protects the flock? My encounter with an abusive pastor

In what follows, Kay Ellen courageously tells of the abuse she experienced from her former pastor, Duane Yoder, and of the ways her communities of faith failed to hold him accountable. As you will learn from reading her own words, Kay has chosen to share her account publicly in order to help prevent this same...
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